Over the weekend, my husband and I both hit a milestone together. We both turned 30. It doesn’t even seem possible but holy cow, we’re 30!
A lot has happened during our twenties. We met each other when we were 19, graduated college at 21, moved to Chicago and then Wisconsin at 22, moved back to Boston at 24, got engaged at 26, we got married and gave birth to our first baby at 27, spent 28 becoming acclimated to parenthood, and purchased our first home at 29 (phew, did you get that all?!). Not to mention, we traveled the world, became business partners (hello KMED!), met new and amazing friends, left jobs and started anew, experienced the lowest of lows and the highest of highs, grew as individuals and partners and now here we are.
We’re blessed beyond belief for the life and family we have; the good health, happiness and love we share is what living is all about and you couldn’t wish for more.
Personally, I’ve been trying hard to figure my hopes and dreams for the next ten years and there a couple of things that come to mind. I want to be in the moment. If I’ve learned one thing, it’s how fast the first 30 years have flown by. I want to have wide eyes and an open heart for the wonderful experiences life continues to bring and truly soak in those very precious moments with family, friends and the world around me.
I want to create a beautiful legacy and bring a little beauty and happiness to the world. For me, that’s what my business is all about. I’ve put my heart and soul into creating this little biz and I want to see it continue to grow and thrive.
And so I welcome in this next decade. I’m excited. Bring out the party hats, the noise makers, put up the streamers and blow up the balloons! I couldn’t be happier to enter this next chapter, a time that I wholeheartedly believe will be the best yet. I want to celebrate everywhere I’ve been and everywhere I’m going. I want to live this one life of mine- really, really live it- and at the end of my journey I want to look back down the road and feel a sense of pride and accomplishment that I truly did. Here’s to an amazing 30 years and a lifetime ahead…
30 thoughts oN life for 30 years OF LIFE
(according to me)
- Travel as far as you can and as often as you can. I can’t emphasize how much traveling has shaped who I am as a person and how I have chosen to live my life. Travel takes you out of your comfort zone, it makes you modest and opens your mind to people, cultures and traditions.
- Creativity takes on many forms. Find out what yours is and engage with it regularly.
- Guacamole cures almost everything (and yes, we know it’s extra).
- You’re never too busy. Rarely, if ever, does being busy have to do with time, rather, it has everything to do with priorities. Make sure people are your number one priority.
- Stop caring about what other people think or say about you. We can’t please everyone and that is okay. Don’t ever lose yourself in the process just to get the approval of people who don’t deserve you in their lives.
- Quality over quantity. Having a few real people in your life is better than having a handful of fake ones. Remember that.
- Have faith. No matter what your religion may be, faith helps us grow, can change lives, moves mountains, and allows miracles to happen.
- Giving rides to the airport, no matter the hour, is something you do for your friends. Helping a friend move a couch up a staircase, on the other hand, is a fair place to draw the line.
- Family is everything. No matter your age or where you are in life, one of the most important things in the world is family. So, never take them for granted, know that you can always turn to them … and tell them how much you love them.
- Learn when to say no. Such a short word yet the hardest thing to say. Set boundaries. If you don’t want to do something, don’t do it. You’ve lived enough life now that you should feel strong and confident putting limits in place that work for you.
- But say yes, too. Does it scare you? Does it make you nervous? Is it outside your comfort zone? Then say yes. The only way to grow is to keep moving forward and to challenge yourself.
- Drink water. Water makes the world go round. Hungover? drink water. Headache? drink water. Bloated? drink water. Bad skin? drink water. Sick? drink water.
- You’re stronger than you think. Don’t ever believe you won’t be able to move on and pick up the pieces, because you will. Give yourself time to wallow in misery and eat an entire pint of ice cream in one sitting but know when to stand up, wipe the tears and move on.
- Fall in love. Open your heart to love but be patient for the right person. Don’t ever settle.
- Read books and feed your mind. Learn, grow, progress.
- Let it go. If it becomes toxic in your life whether it’d be a job, a vice or a person, you have to stop and let go. Everything will all fall into place when you let go of something that doesn’t give you happiness.
- Never sell yourself short. You are beautiful. You are worthy. You are deserving. Stop believing that you’re not capable enough to achieve great things in life.
- It’s never too early to start using eye cream. Even if it’s another thing you have to do before bed now and learning to wash your makeup off in the first place was a major victory.
- Try to understand that sometimes, you won’t always get what you want in life, but rather, you’ll always end up with what you need. And in time, you’ll realize it was what you’ve always wanted ultimately. Thank you to the Rolling Stones on this one.
- Make a commitment to serving others. You’ll feel good about helping, and you’ll make a difference.
- Wear sunscreen. Ward off wrinkles and cancer for as long as possible, just wear it.
- Be nice. Nice wins no matter the situation. And no matter to whom.
- Paying someone to do your laundry and/or springing for a cleaning lady every few weeks or months will be the best decision you ever make.
- Say sorry. Apologize if you were wrong. Apologize if you weren’t wrong. It’s better to apologize than look back with regret.
- As your siblings and close friends have children, be a good, attentive aunt or uncle or role model. Do it for your relationship to the little ones, but also do it for your relationship with those important to you.
- Snail mail is still cool. Take your note cards out and write someone a note once in a while. In an increasingly impersonal world, they distinguish you, are appreciated, and are long-remembered.
- New friends are just as special. Duration alone doesn’t determine the depth of a relationship.
- Put down your phone. Do it, or you might miss something.
- When someone is struggling or addressing a tough challenge, show up and be there for them. Don’t be intimidated by thinking, “I don’t know that to say to them.” Your presence will convey: “I’m thinking about you, I’m there for you, and I want you to let me know what I can do to help.
- Think happy thoughts. (I actually have a tattoo with this saying.) Stay positive. Once you strip away the negativity, you become such a happier person. Less judgement, less conflict, and more positivity.
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